What this is
Eros is the life force that draws us toward connection — sometimes sexual, sometimes not. It’s the heart of desire, the inspiration to dream into a better life, and the drive to make it real.
When we’re disconnected from it, life gets hard. We push, we fight, we get confused, give up, or get stuck. And love becomes a chore — something we “should” do, instead of something we want to do.
Some people decide that’s just the way life is. It doesn’t have to be.
Practical tantra brings the esoteric into the open, with language and frameworks that make sense for the modern world. It’s a mindset — and a set of practices — that make connection natural and easy.
The mindset
Learn how simple love can be. Five keys (curiosity, cooperation, patience, forgiveness and play) that change how you meet yourself and the people you love.
The practices
Made for anybody at any stage of life. Combined with the mindset, these practices open the door to intimacy that feels natural, easy, and even playful.
Relationship in widening circles
Yourself. Pleasure, health, presence. Being at home in your body. Every relationship starts here.
A partner. Safety, trust, and opening together.
Family and community. The people you share daily life with. The people you can lean on, and who can lean on you: some closer, some further away, all invested in living well together. It’s what modern life, built around separation, has mostly lost.
The land. What literally supports you, and what we easily forget. Food, growing, and the place you live. Nothing mystical: just remembering that everything we have comes from a huge, connected web of living things.
Spirit. What holds all of it. No pressure and no dogma. Whatever version of spirit makes sense to you, if any.
Eros moves through every circle. Healthy intimacy makes healthy families. Healthy families make healthy communities. Why it matters for families →
You were never meant to do it alone
Most of us were never taught how to love well. We learned in our heads, alone, from whatever we picked up along the way. Some of us learned from porn, Hollywood movies, or cultural ideas that don’t make sense anymore. And we live further apart than people ever have.
We evolved in community for eons. Until the last several hundred years, most people lived in small villages, and research suggests there’s a limit to how many real, face-to-face relationships we can hold before community starts breaking down. For most of humanity’s history, you could walk 100 feet and get help with your relationship, with your kids, or with anything else that was troubling you.
This work is about bringing that back. It’s about coming back together: to your body, to your partner, and to the people around you.
Sound familiar?
- You love each other, but you feel like roommates or business partners.
- Disagreements are charged, and you know you're just repeating a pattern.
- Sex has become routine, or it's quietly stopped.
- You want more touch. Or you want more space. Or both at the same time.
- You have a good life, and wonder why it doesn't feel like enough.
None of this means something is wrong. It means nobody taught you the tools. They're learnable, and they can even be fun.
Ways in
Break Free
Sessions for men, women and couples, for the patterns that keep you stuck. In person or online.
Hi, I'm Chris
I’ve spent over twenty years learning and sharing practices that get people out of their heads and into their bodies, and connecting beyond the stories we tell ourselves: “sex dies after kids,” “I don’t know what I want,” “love is hard,” “I’m too old to change.”
Trained in yoga, breathwork, massage therapy, inner work and tantra. I live in Costa Rica.
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